Oh, you know.
Tuesday, November 26, 2013 - We not only know what records are, we have a player.
Tuesday, November 19, 2013 - Brinner (breakfast for dinner) on our first night back with our young marrieds small group.
I struggled with the same feelings toward a friend of mine once. But I do consider him a friend now, so it is possible to work through these feelings.
It wasn’t easy, but here’s how I learned to handle it:
Check your insecurity
Often, when someone gets under my skin, it has more to do with me than it does with them.
The friend I mentioned reminded me a lot of myself before I made some pretty significant changes to my life - and that made me uncomfortable.
He wasn’t a bad guy. I was just insecure.
Once I acknowledged that my feelings were unreasonable and that my friend was actually a good guy, I felt a lot more comfortable hanging out with him. I still didn’t agree with him about some things, but that disagreement became less upsetting.
So I have to wonder – and I’ll try to say this gently – Does your co-leader really get under your skin because she’s “crazy”, or does she get under your skin because she’s your boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend?
It’ll take humility, but acknowledging your own insecurity in the situation could be a big first step to getting along with her.
Check your priorities
You mentioned that you think satan might be targeting you. But, given that you and this girl are leading a youth group together; I would argue that he’s really targeting your church.
God works in the world today primarily through His Church, so conflict within the church will always work to satan’s advantage.
The next time your co-leader gets under your skin, step back and see how your conflict with her might be affecting the rest of the youth group. Then remind yourself:
The spiritual growth of your students is far more important than your personal issues.
She may approach things differently than you do. But if her heart is for serving the kids in your group, she’s exactly who you want to be there. So focus on her good qualities – the unique talents and instincts she brings – and encourage her positive influence in the group.
Check your service
The last suggestion I have for you is probably the most important: Serve your co-leader.
My friend went through a period of time when he needed a lot of help, and I was the only one available to be there for him. At first it seemed inconvenient - I had a hard enough time being around the guy, let alone sticking my neck out for him. But he was my spiritual brother, so I chose to obey and treat him like a brother.
And as I did, I learned an important truth: We naturally grow to care about the people we invest our lives in.
The more you go out of your way to help and support your co-leader, the softer your heart will became toward her. And there’s nothing more to it than just doing it.
Sooner or later, everyone encounters someone at church who will get under their skin. If sin is the cause, deal with the sin correctly. But if it’s just a personality difference, be humble, be cooperative and serve the other person.
I hope this helps.
Peace, love and Jesus,
Ha, well thanks, Susanna. But no, we’re not expecting or even trying yet.
We’d like to spend some time being spouses before we take on being parents as well.
Why Bring a Child into This World?
This video was made by Unilever, a european consumer goods company. I don’t know much about it or its “Project Sunshine”, but the message of this video is pretty universal: There’s never been a better time to have a child.
And, as one father says, “The world needs more good guys, and I like to think our baby will be one of the good guys.”
(On a personal note, I notice that the fathers express most of the concern shown here. Fatherhood, and the burden a good dad feels for his kids, doesn’t often get the attention it deserves.)
Tuesday, November 12, 2013 - Ashley and I ate out at a restaurant built of old train cars in Elbe, Washington.
I’m pretty open about my life here on tumblr, but I do try to keep specific personal details private (or at least ambiguous).
So come off anon and ask me again. I love catching up with tumblr people when I get the chance.
Peace, love and Jesus,